Perfectionists Overcoming Perfectionism Are you a perfectionist? Do you know a perfectionist? Keep in mind when working with a perfectionist they are tougher on themselves than they are you!
You see perfectionist feel the strong desire to be the best at EVERYTHING they do! This isn’t a a bad thing as those Non-Perfectionists could learn a lot from Perfectionists. A Perfectionists takes it very personal even on a small set back because in their mind it is huge. Failure is not an option for a perfectionist.
Perfectionists hold themselves many times to a standard that is not realistic. If Perfectionism interferes with your relationships here are a few tips to help you find freedom.
Perfectionism vs. Aspiring to Greatness
You will find no work of art in any museum that’s perfect. Every famous painting has plenty of flaws and blemishes that only a trained eye can spot.
“The Mona Lisa is a great work of art, but if you look at it with X-ray fluorescence spectroscopy, you’ll find that the painting is made up of over 40 layers of paint. Had Da Vinci gone much further beyond the 40th coat, he could have lost the subtlety of human expression his paintings are known for.”
Perfectionists tend to magnify even the smallest flaw or failure. What happens many times if you focus on the flaws or imperfections you end up not accomplishing anything at all.
Do you see how perfectionism can become a self-fulfilling prophecy?
First step is to acknowledge that perfection is unattainable. Instead, aspire to greatness.
Implement these 3 strategies and overcome your obsession with being perfect:
Break it down in bite size pieces: While we know a project is to be completed, stop looking at it as a whole but bite size pieces all working together like a puzzle. Worrying about it a piece at a time takes the stress off and allow you to focus on that piece alone and not the full outcome. If you take it step-by-step, you’ll chip away at a large project without agonizing over whether it’s perfect or not.
Don’t be so hard on others: If you find yourself imposing your perfectionism on others, stop and ask why. It’s helpful to realize that others aren’t required to live by your standards. The more room you give others the easier you will be on yourself. Don’t judge so harshly. It is great that you want things done well but sometimes perfect is unattainable. When you ask for help and then you expect a higher level that the person is available to do you cause them to have a lack of confidence and not want to help you in the future.
Learn to Laugh: Learn to laugh at yourself and your imperfections rather than criticize yourself . Life is not just black and white sometimes it is grey. Keep in mind when the day is ended you are the only one who knows if your work was perfect! Give yourself a break!
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